Some things in life you can't ever apologize for. There's just no way to undo what has been done. There are no words to change it, make things better and fix the trust that has been broken. There is no way to unhear what has been heard, unsee what has been seen and undo what has been done.

Forgiveness isn't even an option when the guilty party has no remorse. They don't believe they have done anything wrong. They have heard what they wanted to hear, chosen to listen only when it applies to them and made selfish choices, never considering the ramifications to follow or the lasting effects it has on others around them.  Theirs is a perfect world, just ask them.

In time we may get over the pain, bury it and let it settle. We may even be able to forget about it for a while and not let it bother us as much. Truth be known, it chips away at us on the inside. It's there for us every day, bothering us in the far reaches of our mind. We never know when it will happen, where we will be when it does or even how, but there will be something to tip it off and bring it back to the surface.  Some pain, some things, may never be resolved.  


  1. Very, very true, but acceptance of those things and the ability to cut your losses and leave behind the offender is a very powerful thing. I try to live by Oprah's mantra: "Only surround yourself with people and things who bring you joy or add value to your life. Get rid of everything else". Once I cleaned house, my life became so much richer.

    1. My Ex told me she never forgave anyone for anything. That it was just inviting them to hurt you again. I've come to the conclusion she was right and you are right. Clean house!

      After all, isn't there some quote about the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result? Not exactly on point but close.

  2. It's true. Sometimes I don't think of it as forgiving the other person. It's just getting over it so that you can stop dwelling on it and move on with your life (much more important).


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