Monday, March 17, 2014

Life worth living

I read a quote today in the comments on a story online. The person who posted it gave credit where it is due.

It's by William W. Purkey -

"You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching,
Love like you'll never be hurt,
Sing like there's nobody listening,
And live like it's heaven on earth."

Sometimes I can dance like nobody is watching. It's usually because nobody is. I checked or else I locked the door. Ha! 

Love like you'll never be hurt. Sometimes this can be tough. I have loved people in my life though, because of or sometimes even in spite of their shortcomings. Their problems are not necessarily mine, but I can be understanding, sympathetic, listen, give them an objective opinion if asked, guidance and support them in their decisions.

Sing like there's nobody listening.  I do it a lot. In the car especially. Windows up, windows down- it doesn't matter. I sing it loud and proud. I let my inner voice be heard no matter how off pitch it may be.

Live like it's Heaven on earth.  I would like to do this more. I try. I honestly do. But if it truly were Heaven on earth, none of us would have to work. There would be no bills and we could just breeze thru life doing what we like all of the time. 

Lest I forget- Happy St. Patricks day and may the luck o' the Irish be with ye.

Saturday, February 22, 2014

Teach a man to fish

The old saying "Give a man a fish, he'll eat for the day. Teach a man to fish and feed him for a lifetime." has to do with teaching someone to do something. But what if they don't want to learn?

It can be frustrating for anyone, how you can make something so easy for someone else to do and yet they still manage to screw it up. I know a few people in life like this. You can give them specific, written directions to follow, step 1, step 2, step 3 and so on... everything but hold their hand or do it for them. They still manage to blow it.

There are people who leave you scratching your head in wonder, if they really just don't get it? They try, they honestly do and yet they fall short over and over, time and again. They either rush thru things, ignore things, skip things or try to just finish it now and come back later to clear up rather than do it right from the beginning. Um, no. It doesn't always work that way. I have always asked- if you didn't have time to do it right on the first go, where are you going to find the time to do it over?

I know there are times when you need to just go slow, learn it the right way and later it will be easier and faster because you become more proficient. I get that. With written directions, specifying the order to be followed, even showing you exactly what you will see as you proceed... How do you screw it up? How does anybody not understand what they need to do?

I know that sometimes it is intentional. I have known people to intentionally do things wrong to the point of pissing off the person showing them, to where they just sack the idea of teaching them and tell them, "Nevermind, I will do it myself." This is an art in and of itself. I don't want to do this so if I mess up enough to piss them off, they will do it for me. Some people are masters of the subtleties of repeatedly pulling this off with the same person. I just don't suffer their foolishness.

My father was a master at asking where stuff was so that others would get it for him. Asking repeatedly how to do something so someone else would just do it to shut him up. He wasn't to be considered thick at all. Instead he was quite brilliant, because he could get others to do things for him that he didn't want to have to do himself. When you grow up with someone like this, once you figure it out for yourself, it is easy to spot in others when they are honestly trying and when they are not. That starving man has to WANT to learn to fish. Otherwise trying to teach him is a waste of time for everyone involved.

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Quick turnaround

I recently started to get serious about one aspect of my life. I began to really focus on it and I have to say, the results are amazing. I have started to work on this before during the summer and have had my ups and downs in the process. It is to be expected. It happens. But with the new year, I have decided to make it a priority. I have shifted things into gear and gotten down to work on it. It hasn't been pretty, it hasn't been easy, but it has been for the better. It has been work, some days it is really tough to get into the right mind set and get moving, but it is already starting to pay off. It has only been two weeks, I have only been motivated 3 days a week each so far, but I am getting results. And for that? I AM CHUFFED! It has me excited. I am anxious to see more changes and the end result of the transformation. It's not going to happen overnight, but it is working and there is progress already being made. What more can I ask?

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Peace & Grace

Things have been rather slow lately. Seems that after the Holidays it has slowed down to a restful lull in the routine. Everything is back on track, the schedule is fairly clear, everyone is comfortably settled back into their daily cycle and it is peaceful to say the least. I hope everyone is finding some grace and beauty in their world around them.

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

If you dream it

The end of October I posted about having a dream of someone from my past. Dream interpretations on a few different websites mentioned unresolved issues that might be there. But everything had been resolved years ago. There was nothing left to go over, no pressing issues to figure out, no terms to agree on, everything was just Done. It was over, we had both moved on. We were each ok with that and there was nothing to resolve.

When I dreamt of this person from my past- we were in a strange place, nowhere that I know of. He passed me by on the street, said nothing, just looked blankly at me as he walked on by. I had only seen him, yet I knew. That was enough.

Our mutual friend? I hadn't heard from them in a few years. Things had ended badly between us and there was some animosity, hurt feelings, jealousy and the like. So be it and I thought we had both moved on as well.

What happens next is a bit crazy. I got a text from the mutual friend over the holidays. Apparently they have been talking for some time and my name had been the direct focus of many of their conversations. The timing? This all started within days of my dream.

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Thoughtful words

I hope everyone has had a Happy New Years celebration, one they enjoyed. Seven days into the new year and I hear people all around me talking about their resolutions, most of which may last a few days tops, if that long.

Last year was the second year I engaged in a new tradition a friend of mine had passed along to me. Selecting a word or phrase for the year.  It's a word you choose to have in your life, something you want to see, hear, do or be more of. A word that inspires you, soothes you, eases your pain, grief or sorrow and allows you to be yourself, heal, grow, learn and expand.

Throughout the year, you will notice how many times the word itself comes into play in the array of circumstances in your life. How the word applies, how the very definition of it even changes and how you see yourself progressing, gravitating and even moving toward that word. It's amazing how once you try it, you will not likely go back to the idea of resolutions.  Just a thought.

Monday, December 23, 2013

Truth or Dare

We have all played the game at some point in our lives. You choose to tell the truth or take on a dare and you are asked a question. The nature of the question is usually an intrusive one of some sort and you have to answer it or proceed to do the dare. The dare is usually something embarrassing or fear inducing on your part. You have to trust the friends you are playing with, as their questions or the dares imposed can be pretty intense or demanding, or fairly easy and general. It's the intense and demanding questions and dares where things get interesting.

I was recently in attendance of a proceeding where it was similar to a game of Truth or Dare. When the questions were laid down, on of the participants had instead chose the route of omission of some of the truths. The results were interesting, that's for sure and as it is my understanding, omission falls within the boundaries of lying as you chose not to reveal some things in an attempt to cover them up. Don't ask, don't tell... Shhhhh...

Well things have a way of sorting themselves out and usually you can predict to some degree how that will be, but in the end, you either tell the truth or take the dare. Either way, things can often be have an uncomfortable outcome.