Unspoken words

I admit to being one of those people who is not blessed with the talent or knack of always knowing the right thing to say at the right time. Sometimes I write a post and go back to edit it, change things up a little and 4 hours, 1068 drafts later it is nothing as it started out as.

Some people are truly gifted in the capacity of knowing just what to say when someone has lost a pet, friend or even a family member. They know how to ease the loss, make light of things and the world is so much better just because they are in it. I am not one of them- I am not gifted in that respect.

When there is something tough to say, something that may cause someone else pain to hear, but they need to hear it, I stumble over my words. I struggle to find the right ones because we all know that once said, you can't ever take them back.

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  1. Kellie @ Delightfully LudicrousMay 14, 2013 at 2:03 AM

    I'm like that too. I've actually googled what to write in a condolence card more than once.

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  2. joehMay 14, 2013 at 6:17 AM

    I don't believe there is any thing to say in these situations, just being there, a touch or a hug is all the words you need.

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  3. Sherry SikstromMay 14, 2013 at 10:58 AM

    Sometimes ,it is the heart behind the words that counts, there are times that there are really no "correct" words to say you just have to offer silent support, and others when even if it may seem caustic, you have to say what you have to say and hope that your intent is understood and respected

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  4. Poke The RockMay 15, 2013 at 9:35 AM

    I have a hard time finding the right words, maybe I lack social skills. Especially in the times of lost I don't know what to say, is there a course you can take?

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