Most of us can easily say we know someone close to us, well enough that not much they do or say surprises us. We know what they like or don't, what their favorite color is or not. Sometimes we do, but sometimes we don't.
What happens then? When the person we think we know so well, comes out of left field with a bombshell that rocks our world... Did we even see it coming? Did we ignore the signs along the way of what was to come?
Sometimes we just miss all the marks of what makes people tick. We ignore what may be something significant to them, only to miss out on all of the additional things it brings with it. Whether we chose to ignore the obvious or just missed it along the way, we do not get to explore that part of their world and what it brings. Often times, you miss it once and the door is closed for good. Sometimes you may get a second chance, but often you don't.
We may not realize the depths of their thoughts, the strength in their convictions, their gifts or talents for what they are worth or the passion they put into the people or things they truly love. Sometimes we have an idea about them, but pass it off or take it for granted. We keep our head down, go through life with blinders on and on the day of the bombshell blast- wonder what happened and how we didn't see it coming?
For some people it takes a bombshell blast for them to realize what they have, what they have missed and how they need to change. When they change, they find gifts and treasures untold. Life takes a turn and the outcome is simply amazing.
For others- they still don't get it, never have, never will. It's something you have made up, something you believe in with no substantial evidence or proof otherwise... It's all your fault. They are great at throwing out the victim card, blaming others and never taking responsibility.
In the end it is their loss. They will never know what they might have had, how good things could have been or how their own behavior has affected the final outcome. "Poor, poor me!" is their mantra in life. Good for them. Let them keep telling themselves that. You have far better things in life to do.