Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Same old, same old.

A tiger doesn't change their stripes. We have all heard this and variations of it. A Rose is a Rose. Yet some people try to change their names, have surgery done, get makeovers and still they are the same within. 

The last post spoke of those who complain about things or tell you not to, you can't or whatever comes to mind, yet they themselves have done nothing to fix the situation, help or let alone institute a change.  The other end of the spectrum is those who try too hard to change everything about themselves, but either they forget, ignore or simply don't know that the biggest changes come from within.

We have seen the person who goes to the salon, pays out in excess for a tan from the tanning beds, changes their hair color, gets cosmetic surgeries galore- to change their nose, reduce wrinkles, enlarge their breasts, remove fat and all for naught, because they are still the same person on the inside. Same personality, same intelligence (or lack of), same sense of humor, same laugh... They are still. the. damn. same.  Just because the packaging chages, the product inside likely has not. 

Some people go as far as to move, switch jobs or careers, snub their friends and find new ones, buy a new car, take up a new hobby and yet...  They are still the same miserable wretch of a person they have always been. It may take a while for things to catch up, but it does happen.  People learn of their past, see them for who they really are. The mask no longer hides the facade of their life.  They may possibly learn to change themselves, but often they do not. They simply don't know how. If they did, they would have transformed themselves long ago.  The money they spent on the outside packaging, could have been better spent on things they enjoy, which would have improved everything about them.

Sunday, February 12, 2012

What would You do?

Listen to the mustn'ts, child.
Listen to the don'ts.
Listen to the shouldn'ts,
the impossibles, the won'ts.
Listen to the never haves,
then listen close to me...
Anything can happen, child.
Anything can be.

- Shel Silverstein

Certainly words to live by. Why is it we all pick the most negative things about ourselves and dwell on them? Is that going to change them or make them go away?  Not unless we do something about it, they won't.  If we are overweight or eat a horrid diet, we can get off our couch and excercise, change what we pick up at the market or keep feeling bad about being overweight...

If we don't like the way something is going or has turned out- we can either offer suggestions to help, offer to go back and fix it or keep quiet about our opinions and live with the results. If you have not done anything to help initiate the change- you have no ground to stand on when it comes to complaints. 

When we are the one doing the work and under everyone elses scrutiny, are their words meant to help us or hurt us? If someone elses words are empty and shallow, they have done little or nothing to help us- WHY does Anything they say matter in the least to us? Unless they are willing to jump in and help, they can Piss Off! 

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Insult to injury

What is it that drives some people to the point of being so completely bitter and nasty that they feel the need to insult others? Are they attempting to bring everyone down to their level? Are they trying to elevate their own stature by doing this?  

I have watched a person from a safe distance, over the past few months become so bitter and nasty, a person who is never happy, always in a foul mood. I have watched as they lashed out at others and been so incredibly mean and downright nasty, that I can honestly say- I don't even know who they are anymore. As a friend- it is sort of a 'duty' to try to stop them before they fall. Are they one of those 'toxic friendships' as discussed in another post? Certainly.  At some point, you have to distance yourself from the 'toxic friends' in order to maintain your own sanity.

Like beggets like.  Their negativity attracts negativity. Things will go wrong, it will spiral as it circles the drain and escalates. Their world revolves around the drama which ascend's to climax at their annual, self induced, red carpet Pity Party Royale.  Costumes are a requirement as they never reveal their own true self- even when looking in the mirror.  Their world is one filled with untruths, smoke and deception. Eventually their insults may indeed lead to injury, as their own power of self control slips away. They grasp at straws as they fall from the pedestal they believe they are on.