Saturday, February 22, 2014

Teach a man to fish

The old saying "Give a man a fish, he'll eat for the day. Teach a man to fish and feed him for a lifetime." has to do with teaching someone to do something. But what if they don't want to learn?

It can be frustrating for anyone, how you can make something so easy for someone else to do and yet they still manage to screw it up. I know a few people in life like this. You can give them specific, written directions to follow, step 1, step 2, step 3 and so on... everything but hold their hand or do it for them. They still manage to blow it.

There are people who leave you scratching your head in wonder, if they really just don't get it? They try, they honestly do and yet they fall short over and over, time and again. They either rush thru things, ignore things, skip things or try to just finish it now and come back later to clear up rather than do it right from the beginning. Um, no. It doesn't always work that way. I have always asked- if you didn't have time to do it right on the first go, where are you going to find the time to do it over?

I know there are times when you need to just go slow, learn it the right way and later it will be easier and faster because you become more proficient. I get that. With written directions, specifying the order to be followed, even showing you exactly what you will see as you proceed... How do you screw it up? How does anybody not understand what they need to do?

I know that sometimes it is intentional. I have known people to intentionally do things wrong to the point of pissing off the person showing them, to where they just sack the idea of teaching them and tell them, "Nevermind, I will do it myself." This is an art in and of itself. I don't want to do this so if I mess up enough to piss them off, they will do it for me. Some people are masters of the subtleties of repeatedly pulling this off with the same person. I just don't suffer their foolishness.

My father was a master at asking where stuff was so that others would get it for him. Asking repeatedly how to do something so someone else would just do it to shut him up. He wasn't to be considered thick at all. Instead he was quite brilliant, because he could get others to do things for him that he didn't want to have to do himself. When you grow up with someone like this, once you figure it out for yourself, it is easy to spot in others when they are honestly trying and when they are not. That starving man has to WANT to learn to fish. Otherwise trying to teach him is a waste of time for everyone involved.

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Quick turnaround

I recently started to get serious about one aspect of my life. I began to really focus on it and I have to say, the results are amazing. I have started to work on this before during the summer and have had my ups and downs in the process. It is to be expected. It happens. But with the new year, I have decided to make it a priority. I have shifted things into gear and gotten down to work on it. It hasn't been pretty, it hasn't been easy, but it has been for the better. It has been work, some days it is really tough to get into the right mind set and get moving, but it is already starting to pay off. It has only been two weeks, I have only been motivated 3 days a week each so far, but I am getting results. And for that? I AM CHUFFED! It has me excited. I am anxious to see more changes and the end result of the transformation. It's not going to happen overnight, but it is working and there is progress already being made. What more can I ask?